But anyway, it's always been tricky being a girl and we should praise girls who might show that they want praise. I kind of like Anne Hathaway, as sort of a younger Julia Roberts-type.
Anne Hathaway: The New Yorker
|I think I like happy people.|
I'm going to generalize about Girls now:
We are taught early to hide ambition in order to be liked, and praise the other girl in the room ("I LOVE your HAIR!")...And then, I guess, when we see a girl not really playing this game, we're like Dude, don't you know how this goes? It's complicated though, because hiding our ambition/desires/pro-self-ness can demonstrate a whole array of things for both ourselves and others:
- hiding that we care makes it easier to fake being ok when we fail (for ourselves and others)
- hiding ourselves on purpose to highlight someone else shows that we (girls) care about others, by giving them the floor that we know/believe/hypothesize they need...like empathy or sympathy
- hiding is what we're taught (at least I was) from such a young age, so it's uncomfortable to be self-promoting or cheerleading for oneself. feels gross.
- minimizing ourselves is part of this deft social game, this intelligence that reflects that you understand the complex web of other people's thoughts, feelings, and actually you DO care how they perceive you...so if you don't "play," you are maybe lacking this type of intelligence? but then why all the resentment?
I have no idea why people/women like Jennifer Lawrence, in contrast to A.H. And I think people are being too sensitive if they are offended by the The Onion's tweet about the little girl from "Beasts of the Southern Wild"--I think it points out the ridiculous scrutiny and phony love/ hatred extremes of celebrity-watching and -worship. And the Onion always does that stuff--go to extremes and point out our ridiculousness. That's like their JOB. You should see that movie, though ("Beasts/Southern Wild"): that little girl is amazing. I can't remember her name but it starts with a Q.
I don't know exactly why...well, maybe I do...but this whole silly debate reminds of Helen Hunt in "Every Day" (Liev Schrieber). Have you seen it?
Also-what does sarcasm and suffering have to do with it? We like unhappy, morose, dark, mopey people? I don't think so. Wait, maybe socially-awkward and shy can be endearing... I need to think about this more.